Feeling like you’re living with a roomate instead of a partner?

Life gets away from us fairly fast.  Work, kids, commitments to others and daily stress can lead to anxiety, tension and exhaustion.  We have a tendency to tune out with our partner when we’re overwhelmed.  That’s the time to actually tune in!

THE KEY IS ‘WE!’

All you need is a little imagination to jump start your relationship.  When your car is stalled, you get out the cables, right?

Do things together, like trying a hobby that is new to both of you, or maybe a couples massage class.  Heck, ditch the class, just grab some oil and start rubbing each other!  Make a mess and have some fun.  What’s important is that you’re together.

If you have hobbies that are separate from each other, shift your time table.  Cut the time you spend on that activity in half, with the intent of spending the time gained with your partner.   If you have to carve out time for your partner, do it!  Make them your priority.

There’s no “I” in Team!

Tackle problems together as a unified front.  We think that events or problems end our relationships, but really it’s how we handle ourselves when things come up.  When you’re working together, you’re staying together!

Here are your jumper cables:

Do one romantic or thoughtful thing for your partner.  Every day.

Reminisce about your early days and recreate those feelings of when you first met.  Start your sentence with “Remember when we….”

Use “we” more than “I”.  Remember, you’re in this together!

With just a little effort, the two of you can reconnect and rekindle.  What are you waiting for?

Challenge:

 Attached – At least one romantic thing a day, every day.

Unattached – Put yourself in social situations at least once a week.  You’ll meet new people, have fun and hone your mingling skills.  You will never find your partner sitting on your couch!

Have a Fabulous Week!

Laura